A free NeuroMagic guide · ADHD in high-stakes jobs
...until the car park
For the woman who keeps everyone safe, calm and sorted at work, then sits in her car for twenty minutes with the engine off before she can face walking through her own front door.
Part 1 · Recognise it
Tick anything that lands. There's no score and nobody's marking it, and to be completely, well and truly honest with you, I've ticked every one of these myself at some point (a few of them in the same shift).
Nothing ticked yet
Ticked more than you expected? Find your door or drop me a line.
Part 2 · Count the cost
Masking through a twelve hour shift is work. It just never makes it onto your timesheet. Pick one prompt and write as much or as little as you like.
List three things you manage on shift that nobody actually sees you managing.
Write what happens to your evenings, your temper, your body or your people on the days you've held it all.
Choose one thing you got told off for as a girl (talking, daydreaming, being "too much"). Write what was actually going on for you.
Name one thing that would make next week ten percent lighter. Small is the whole point.
Remember
You can understand exactly what your brain is doing and still be bloody exhausted by it. Both get to be true at the same time.
Part 3 · Telling work (or not)
You choose who you tell, how much and when. In the UK, ADHD can count as a disability under the Equality Act 2010, which means your employer may have to make reasonable adjustments, and Access to Work may help fund support like coaching (check whether you qualify). Borrow these as they are, or write your own version alongside.
"I've recently been diagnosed with ADHD. I'm good at this job and I want to stay good at it, and a couple of small changes would help, starting with written follow-ups after verbal briefings. Could we book thirty minutes to talk about adjustments?"
"I'd like a reasonable adjustments assessment for ADHD. The areas I'm finding hardest are paperwork deadlines and shift changeovers."
"If I go quiet after a big job, that's me recharging, nothing to do with you. A text before a call really helps me."
"When I get in from shift I need twenty minutes before I can talk properly. It's me landing, and then I'm all yours."
Door 3 · Disclosed
If disclosing has turned into capability meetings, performance plans or a "quick word" every week, there's a fixed 30-day intervention built for exactly this moment. Your employer books it, so work gets a proper plan and you get someone in your corner. Send it to your manager or HR.
Part 4 · Coming off shift
You don't need to redesign your whole life on a rest day. Try one of these, and notice what changes.
Build a landing routine. Same drink, same playlist, same shower, every time, so your nervous system learns the shift is actually over.
Plan rest before the rota lands. Protect one day with zero plans and zero people, and put it in the calendar like a shift.
Give it one short, fixed slot straight after a break, with a body double on a call or a timer you can actually see.
Try "let me check my rota and come back to you". It buys you time to work out what you genuinely have capacity for.
Door 2 · Off Shift
Off Shift is my self-paced course and workbook for diagnosed women in frontline and high-stress public sector jobs. It's built to survive nights, lates and 6am starts, and you do it on your rest days, at your own pace, without booking a single call.
Part 5 · Your door
Four quick questions. Your ticks from Part 1 count too, so the answer is built from what you've actually told me.
Door 1
Private 1:1 coaching
For the woman who's done holding it together and wants to find out who she is underneath. Three, six or twelve month journeys through the NeuroMagic Method (Rewire, Reconnect, Reawaken), combining psychology and BWRT®, with me in your corner the whole way. Access to Work may help fund it.
Door 2
Self-paced course
For the diagnosed woman in a frontline or high-stress job who needs a system that survives nights, lates and early starts. A course and workbook you work through on your rest days, at your own pace.
Door 3
For your employer
For when you've disclosed ADHD and your role feels at risk. A fixed 30-day intervention your employer books, so work gets a plan and you get proper support. Send it to your manager or HR.
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Keep your answers
Everything you've typed is saved on this device. Copy it all to keep in your notes, or paste it into an email to me and tell me which bit hit hardest. I read every one.
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You've spent years being the one who copes. On the radio, on the ward, in front of thirty kids, in the car park after. You can put that down for a bit in here. Pick one thing from this guide, just one, and let me know how it goes.
Amy x
This guide is coaching, not a diagnosis or medical advice. If you're struggling to keep yourself safe, call 999, NHS 111, or Samaritans free on 116 123. NeuroMagic Club is a trading name of Well Happy Minds Ltd.